What needs to be Changed..? The Clothes or the Thinking..?

She came to the temple wearing a suit ( suitable according to the place) his eyes were continuously following her and as she bends down to take the blessings of the God, her dupatta falls and his eyes shine in glory thinking of the ways to get her to his bed. Comm'on man its not his fault!! its the fault of her dress.If the dupatta had not fallen he wouldn't have thought about her that way.

She came to the market wearing jeans and top his eyes were again following her (he is a man and its his duty to check out every girl) while shopping she stretches to reach out for something, he got his chance as that's what he was waiting for because he got the chance to see that milky white waist and thinking of the million ways to have that flesh under his teeth. Again no no no!!! not his fault, it was the dress again, if it would have properly tucked in, I swear!! he would have never thought about her like this.

Now they both met at a party. He dressed well thinking he should look like a gentlemen but damn man there are some hot girls around you, how can the devil keep on sleeping and more over girls are wearing party dress, knee length and mini skirts. How come a man can take his eyes off them as checking out is obligatory. Those smooth legs, fleshy thighs and well maintained figure in that dress inviting him to take her to a lonely place where he have the freedom to do anything with her. Again you are getting him wrong haan!! again you are blaming it on him? Blame her dress that invites him to think about her that way.

And I was wandering that he was right. It was not his fault, the dress was too much revealing, that changed his mind. If the girls would have worn proper clothes, fully covered, then his intentions wouldn't have changed. I was also very much convinced that it was the fault of clothes, they definitely need a change.

And on one fine day on the streets, he met pardanashin ( lady wearing burqa, a muslim traditional dress). Fully covered no body part was visible. I thought this is a suitable dress a girl should wear, this time his thinking will not change as there was nothing visible, how can he think bad about her. Now I was happy that clothes should be changed. But wait! wait! wait! maybe her body was fully covered but feet were still visible and that was enough for his dirty mind to get upon her. Aah! It was disheartening. I was proven wrong. It was not the fault of the clothes.

I found clothes crying in a corner alone and I asked," why are you crying?' clothes replied, you don't trust us, It was never our mistake. And that day I realized that we humans always believe in lies with our eyes closed. Yes!!! the clothes were right it was not their fault. It was his thinking that was found guilty.

So, what to do now. How can we make it more clear that clothes were not at fault, so I replaced the girls behind those dresses with his sister/mother/daughter. Man!!! results were surprising, this time his thinking didn't change. He doesn't grown any bad intentions for her. How can he do so, as the girl wearing that dress was his own sister/mother/daughter, how can he think such unacceptable things for her. Now I was very much clear in my mind that clothes were not at the guilt.

Please always teach your male child to respect the female section. Covering the whole body is not the solution. Dress the way you feel like and are comfortable in girls. The thinking of the society especially males need to be altered not your clothes. Its not always about the type of clothes a girl wears, one should always try to behave properly and respect girls. They are not a piece of meat that you want snatch. Girls if you find someone staring at you like a hungry dog, Just hit him in the face or wherever you feel like. No matter what a female wears before growing bad intentions for a girl just give a thought to your mind, What if the same thing happens with your mother or sister or daughter?

So, I request to all, before blaming the clothes of a girl, Blame the thoughts that we carry in our mind. I have written what I feel like. Do leave your thoughts in comments section.

(Based on recent past incidents)

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Let It Go..

There was a guy who used to care for the people no matter how badly they treat him or how much bad they did to him. He always kept calm thinking that, someday these people will understand his worth. The poor innocent guy never known of the fact that people will only understand your worth when they want to get something done from you. Sometimes he use to feel that people hates him from inside but never show it on his face. He always makes others happy in any possible manner. He was intelligent, hard working, fun loving and foodie. His friends always talk about him on his back and the boy knew it but never said anything to them as he don't want to ruin friendship as he already have a little, but its is rightly said 1 true friend is far more better than 1000's of cunning 1's. Unaware of this fact he kept on following them. doing whatever they ask him to do, helping them in all sorts but whenever he needs help everyone just step away. He kept on caring for those who never cared for him and lost his Self respect and Dignity

Everything that starts has to come to an end. There's always a point when the bucket starts to overflow and one has to either replace the bucket with a new one or has to turn off the tap. With the passage of time the guy finally understood that this is the time to change (It was not easy to move on when you have spent so much time with someone) but he decided to move on and decided to stay alone with a little amount of friends, focussing more on his family and his business. Now he is in such a situation that he is earning a handsome amount of money (compared to the times when he spends all his money on friends). Living very happily with his family and has a very little amount of friends (not like the other friends he used to have but the real one who might not be available in his happy times but are always by his side in his downs). He finally understood that never ever loose your self respect and dignity at the cost of saving a relationship who people don't worth because whoever want to stay in your life with you will always find a reason or will not give you a reason to leave them.

Its always a human tendency to run after the people who don't care. We keep on seeking attention of those people who don't even worth it and leave those people who care for us. While seeking attention of such people we end up hurting ourselves. Always remember one thing in your life care for those who care for you or the needy one's, whoever shows you ego, ignores you or leaves you for no reason, give them one chance to get back if they don't then you shouldn't.

Life has taught me that you can't control someone's loyalty. No matter how good you are to them, doesn't mean that they will treat you the same. No matter how much they mean to you, doesn't mean that they will value you the same. Sometimes the people you love the most, turn out to be people you can trust the least.  By - Trent Shelton

Never ever expect from the people, you will never get that what you have done for them. Always care for those who are worthy. Never kneel down and loose your self respect to save that relation that is not bound to happen because if some one wants to be in your life they will find a way and if someone don't want to then  LET IT GO the cold shouldn't bother you anyway.

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